Tuesday, 8 July 2014

Why am i odd???

I have always been eccentric, and I’m not saying this to flatter myself. If I had my way, I would have conformed to the norms but no matter how hard i try, i wind up back at the eccentric lane.
While others are probably lusting after abs, grey beards, pink lips and what have you….. I am completely drawn to wittiness, gentility and charm. If you know any YOUNG man with these qualities please raise your hands because I would love to meet him. Sadly, most young men have misplaced priorities and think of themselves more highly than they ought to. You know what gets me the most? When it is glaring that all the “”gentle man” is after, is having a good time and by that I mean sex, then he finds the need to talk about marriage and the inexplicable attraction towards you blah blah. Women are smart and capable of sniffing whatever out before it comes to light but most women have deliberately decided to ignore these qualities for the sake of peace? Or maybe for acceptance because when a woman is too smart, she’s considered by many as a “HUGE” problem and probably intolerable.
Before I go on about me, let me use this medium to express my (If hatred wasn’t such a strong word, I would have said) hatred for the Nigerian adopted “For Coloured Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf” but I would go for detest. What???!!! I can’t remember the last time I saw or heard of something that shallow. We scream women empowerment everyday yet make ourselves look so powerless via our constant complaints and cries about the way we are treated by men. A gentleman thought I’d like the play since I am all for women empowerment and considering the fact that the previous week, I saw “Hear Word” and really loved the story line, I thought I was in for enlightenment and a treat! Only for me to see bunch of grown women in “For Coloured Girls” ranting about the way their boyfriends cheated on them, how they felt caged in the hands of men blah blah. It was depressing sitting through that play. Please women, stop portraying yourselves as being powerless hian!
Ok back to me, I consider myself smart and wise, maybe even wiser than I can bear and to make matters better, I am bold and everything that comes to me, or I go after depicts that. Most people say age is just a number, but I seriously doubt that. It is a given that women mature faster that guys, that applies to me and therefore; draws me to more mature men, age and intellect wise. I definitely cannot stand a dumbo. As a matter of fact, I do not know how anyone can stand a dumbo…..i am inquisitive, how would an airhead feed my hunger for information? Of course there is Google, bt ohhhhh! A man with valuable stories; what could be more attractive? And I am judged for my taste in men? I am utterly confused, even though i just judged those that are drawn to dumbos. Of course there are decent younger men, but why waste my time when there are NOT SO YOUNG MEN that experience have schooled?
P.S: This is a continuation of my previous post “What shall we say to advisers”. The words hadn’t completely formed in my head as at then.
MORE P.S: This is my blog and my diary; I am directing this to my dear friend who says I am making this blog more about me these days.
Writing completely heals me…wish I could provide a video of my facial transition from when I started writing this post to the end. 
Really, should I be judged??? Feel free to comment all ye readers but non commenters.



  1. ~~~~~~> "Please women, stop portraying yourselves as being powerless hian!"

  2. Onyia Kristoval Eloka9 July 2014 at 10:13

    If only there were more ladies who had ur kinda reasoning.
    Unfortunately, most of them throw themselves at the mercy of men.
    Sadly, u have an inspiring message to sow, but the number of ladies who want to hear it can't measure up to a subsistent farmer's cornfield.

  3. After bearing much frustration they'd come around. THANK YOU for this Onyia.

    1. Onyia Kristoval Eloka10 July 2014 at 18:38

      Ur welcome Winifred.

    2. Onyia Kristoval Eloka10 July 2014 at 18:39

      Ur welcome Winifred.

  4. Hey Titi, I know I am one of the few gentlemen with charm and wits...*nottryingtoflatterself*

  5. You are not odd. Well, I say this because I agree with much of what you wrote. I'm very opinionated and strong willed and have over the years found that I usually attract men thayt are attracted to that. A boy that is only a man due to his age will probably be intimidated by a strong woman. Not a crazy angry woman, that's just ugly. Being with someone that doesn't try to tame you but help you be the best "you"l that you can be is a keeper. Forget age, there are old men still chasing everything in a skirt. The truth is, its hard to find a good MAN.

    Eno xoxo